This is something that's been on my mind for the past few days after talking to a friend. So much so I gave up and wrote a post about it. The question might seem simple but really it isn't. What normally goes along with this question is the question of "Do you blog for yourself, or for others?" and while most people will say they blog for themselves, I feel like it is impossible to blog purely for yourself. Everyone blogs in part for others.
The main reason I blog is quite simple; loneliness. By blogging I belong, I am part of a group. I enter into the lives of many individuals and they enter into mine. I praise and am praised. I help and in return I am helped. I listen and offer advice when I can, and when I feel like opening up myself you guys are there for me. I get some validation of my abilities, I discover new things about myself. I meet new people and I get to know them over the course of time.
I've made some really good friends through blogging, and I'd like to think I've been there for the tough times of some people and helped see them through. You guys have helped push me and give me the confidence to do things and I feel validated. I have someone to share my writing with, I have someone to tell me that I'm not half bad at it.
If we were writing purely for ourselves then there wouldn't even be a need to have a blog. You could just keep a journal, or just write anyway. If I didn't have a blog I would probably write more fiction. It's also true though that if I never started a blog I wouldn't have even begun writing. It's hard to deny that getting few comments or views makes me feel bad. I put effort into what I write, I put effort into keeping up with the blogs of other people, and so it feels like a wasted effort if nothing really comes from it. I don't think there's anything wrong with people feeling like they want more for their blog, for themselves.
People come in to this thing for a lot of reasons, and the ones who stay longest are the ones who do it for other people, as well as themselves. When someone reads what you've written, it makes you feel good and makes you want to keep writing. At least, it does if you're as attention and affection starved as me. So remember that there's nothing wrong with blogging for other people, you're being who you are, a blogger. Someone who wants to share something with people.
You can't exactly share something with people if there's no one to take what you have to offer.